Worrying is simply another form of meditation and manifestation. Worry is a sickness; an illness and affliction. Worrying is a misappropriation of a powerful mind, that should otherwise be spent focused on positive and beautiful acts of creation. While the feeling of worry can be a useful messenger to be listened to, excessive worry is a destructive bad habit. In all pursuits of self-betterment, habituation is one of the most important concepts that needs to be understood. Many people who have a worried mind, only worry because they have habituated themselves and their minds to be instruments of worry. The human mind is like a blank computer, into which any software can be written and run. Over time, the human mind's self-written programs will run automatically, and without thought or choice. When "bad things" happen in life, a person always has a choice how they choose to respond to that event. We cannot always control the things that happen to us in life, but one of the very few things we do have control of, is how we choose to respond to the situations and events that occur in our lives. When a person continually chooses to worry and engage in meditations of doubt, which is an act of faithlessness, over prolonged exposure to this choice, a person's mind becomes deeply habituated to this debilitated way of thinking.
Many have said that happiness is an inside job, but be sure to put some emphasis on the word "job." First, accept that you have responsibility in your own happiness. Stop blaming the world, your past, bad luck or other people. Accept the fact that you have some power and choices in your life. Then begin to use your power and choices. Happiness takes practice. It starts with deciding that such a thing even exists, or can exist for you. Then you have to decide that you should have some. Then you have to start looking for it. Chances are that you have opportunities for happiness right under your nose that you haven't even noticed. When we become open to happiness and are more mindful, we begin to notice happiness in moments. Happiness is not a permanent state. Happiness is not a thing we achieve. We do not find the secret to happiness, and then everything is just great. Happiness comes in moments, between sad moments and everyday ordinary moments. Happiness is there for you to notice and reach for and touch. If you want to be happy you must become a happiness seeker. You have to think about happiness, look for the happiness, seize the happiness and believe with all of your heart that you deserve happiness.
People often say they just want peace and happiness. You hear it from people all the time, "I just want to be happy." But really, some of these people don't want to be happy; it's a flat-out lie or a self-delusion. If they wanted happiness, they would have it. The truth is, we have what we want already. I know you will be tempted to blame everything outside of yourself for your woes, but it just isn't true. Sure, it's true that there is ugliness "out there," but happiness is absolutely something available inside of you — and it's available right now. If you are waiting for things in your life to align themselves so you can be happy, then you are likely in for some serious disappointment. Looking to the external for happiness is like a drug addiction; you are always looking for an external fix to sooth your withdrawals of depression when things aren't going well. It is a form of self-medicating something deeper and unresolved. Look, if you aren't happy, it's because you simply don't want to be. The mentally-ill and small children aside, you are responsible for your own happiness. Don't act pitiful and helpless. You do have choices even when your limiting beliefs insist that you don't. The most insubordinate obstacle you will encounter is your own limited thinking. How long are you going to keep waiting for happiness to come your way? I guess you're waiting for happiness to knock your door down and drag you out of your x-year-long streak of "bad luck." You may live in a harsh world at times, but you can have a beautiful inner-life, and a beautiful outer-life always begins with a beautiful inner-life.
This life can be brutal, but it is never harder than when you feel alone. Aloneness is one of the great illusions of the world. When we feel alone, we forget our great commonality. We can then become pessimistic or fatalistic about life. You are not alone, and there is so much goodness in the world. Our goodness is so resilient and ever wanting to express and serve. You can escape from ugliness and flee to reverence, beauty, and awe. Seek out spiritual communion with nature and different ideas and people. Strive to develop your understanding of the universal human struggle for peace and existence on this planet. It is amazing how huge problems shrink as our awareness expands. As you expand yourself, you will realize that you are not so different from others in your suffering, wishes and hopes. Beneath the suffering we are all the same vast beings, and if you look deeply enough you will discover that you love people, and you care, even for people with whom you disagree or don't understand. The sweetness in life did not go away; we turned our backs on her. Turn away from the ugliness and reunite with beauty. You have to want the beauty of life really bad, and you have to take action and look for it. You have to become a beauty seeker. You may not realize it yet, but someone, somewhere in the future needs you, and you have something great to offer others in this life. You are never alone.
The way to begin to truly see beauty in yourself is to begin to see beauty in all of life, and to realize you are connected to life, and that you are a part of life's great beauty. Believing in your own inner-beauty as a wondrous and unique being will begin to shift your perspectives about the world from cynicism to reverence. If you cannot immediately change your external circumstances, start with your words. We are all constructed out of our self-dialogue. Start with your inner-voice. Your inner-dialogue has a profound impact on your life. Make sure your ritual is not a daily prayer for failure through negative self-talk, ruminations, and gossip. Understand and challenge your personal narrative. Narratives become choices and actions — which become your life. Choose thoughts that give you the emotions of feeling alive and excited about life. Make a truce with your inner-voice and speak ever so kindly and respectfully of yourself. What you talk about you anchor yourself to, so if you want to change your life — change your dialogue. Making peace with your negative inner-voice is like making peace with a great enemy. Your inner-voice can become a protector and champion of your life. You give life to your problems with your words. If you really want change, then begin to use your words to give life to solutions. Your struggle is your strength. If you can resist becoming negative, bitter or hopeless, in time, your struggle will give you everything.
Remember that you are the angel of your own life. Look past your ugly thinking; your fears, mistakes, worries, and doubts. Your struggles seem to be external, but we are always destroyed from the inside out. The way you transcend your challenges is by listening to the inner-guide within you. Your good judgment, your discernment, your kind thoughts and your own loving heart — in service of your highest good — is the angel you have been looking for to deliver you. The moment you accept your own beauty and power is the moment your deliverance begins.
The worst lies are the ones we tell ourselves. The worst verbal abuse comes from our own tongue. The most negative influence is the devil on our own shoulder. The cruelest judge is the one staring back in the mirror. The person really withholding the love you need is you. No one will ever out-do you at playing mind-games. You must stop doing this to yourself! The universe is calling you to heal, not to agonize over your mistakes. Quit overthinking; this is what surrendering really means. Don't focus on negativity and don't even obsess about "fixing" things or yourself. Don't force "positive thinking." These things can be psychological irritants. Just leave yourself alone! When you pick at things they never heal. Just relax and give yourself some time.
Changing yourself changes everything. Your attitudes reflect back your exact possibilities. Every experience is seen through your mind's eye, so when you change your mind you change your entire world. There is no such thing as a non-subjective world to a subjective mind. Opportunity will only meet you in the domain of your chosen attitude. You will always receive what your attitudes insist of your worthiness. To alter the universe, alter your thoughts, because the only universe you will ever know is in your mind. This is why changing your mind and your attitude can move you into what seems like another dimension. Paths materialize exposing a hidden world that was there all along. Your future begins with your next thought. A more beautiful world is just one thought away, but when that thought fades, hope fades with it. A more beautiful world becomes more visible and permanent with each reaffirming thought. Hold the vision of that beautiful world for yourself first. Think positively and lovingly about yourself. Look for the beauty you seek first within yourself. Once you find your positive vision, then share the victory of your loving attitudes with everyone you meet, through your calm and generous successes.
Positive attitudes are concerned with possibilities, whereas negative attitudes are obsessed with focussing on the unlikely. Where negative attitudes repel opportunities, positive attitudes open possibilities. Bias can work for or against you. Positive attitudes qualify you for positive experiences. Hopefully and devoutly focus on your greater possibilities. Hopeful thoughts needn't be limitless in scope. Any good is good enough. Positive thinking needn't be thought of as selfish or exclusively serving the self. When you live positively it is impossible to not also be living for something greater than yourself, because when you transform yourself, your change impacts the lives of many other people for the rest of your life.
If your attitudes are good, then your world will be better. Difficulties are more likely to recede and diminish with a favorable and hopeful attitude. But even if your adversity persists, you will certainly be carried more gently through the tumult by calm and constructive attitudes. Look in your disappointments for the resolve to transform your experiences into solutions. Your attitudes are slowly shaping you at all times and calling your deepest truths to the surface of your reality.
