Accepting others is really about accepting yourself, because when you accept others you are freed from your own inner-conflict.
We so easily sling judgements on others, yet we don't want judgements levied against us when we change our ideals.
There is nothing more spiritual than freedom and it is very spiritual to violate old beliefs for new values.
The discomfort you feel when you attempt to change is just the social control that surrounds you becoming more obvious and bearing down on you.
Your personal and spiritual evolution will always be seen as a betrayal by those whose values you abandon.
The inconsistent person is free, and freedom is really what people fear most.
If you make a big life-change it may literally shatter those around you because they can only accept and "love" you "their way."
People often want to "understand" others to "know their place" for strategic self-positioning, which is ultimately about control and safeguarding their advantage.
When you reserve the right to total contradiction, you reserve the self-acceptance to be human.
You are allowed to be inconsistent, contradictory and unbound by conventions such as sanity, intelligence or making sense.
